Is my husband a jerk?

He refuses to tell me he loves me, he doesn't kiss me anymore. He always kisses our little baby and tell her he loves her which I am SO happy for! don't get me wrong. I'm glad that he loves her and wants her in his life. I know that he's doing it to make me jealous though but it's really not making me jealous. I'm actually just really sad. He treats me so bad, he is from Guatemala. He always goes and talks to his sister first before me. He always has to take care of her. Give her rides everywhere...and if I don't include her in our life I'm a horrible person. Literally. He is so jealous of everything, and has to be everywhere that I am. He is controlling. I stand up to him though! I mean literally I screamed at him before. We've been married almost 2 years and he trys to tell me that I'm the one that has to change. When he's mad at me it's "My problem"....... I need to get away don't I? Yes he's hit me plenty of times and I know that I'm a retarded idiot for still being here with him. I just need someones opinion.